The TRUTH about your late 20s



Dear Diary,

What’s the truth about your late 20’s?  Well, the world has lied to us!… You think by the time you get to your late twenties, you’d have it all together… dream job, dream man… money to shop, money for vacations… and on top of all that, you’d be secure with who you are (finally)… and feel 100% confident in your own skin.  But, yeah… that doesn’t happen so easily.  My friends and I have a motto:

Life Sucks: I’m 27.

When we were sixteen, we couldn’t wait to be twenty-one, and by twenty-five, I kept thinking that this new fabulous phase known as our “late twenties” was right on the horizon… but by the time I got here, I realized that there is still A LOT I’m trying to figure out.

I’ve had this conversation with friends and family, time and time again… we all think the grass is always greener; that our friends, family, or even complete strangers have it all figured out while we’re stuck in the dark… but what I realized last night at a fabulous blogger event, with some fabulous ladies… is that we are all in the same boat.  As a generation, we’re in this together!

“Having it all” is a fleeting feeling…  but at the event last night, after a 10 hour day at work, a wardrobe change in the car, and an eyeliner touch-up that nearly caused a car accident… I was feeling refreshed and inspired.  I was sipping champagne, being pampered by beauty experts, and was mingling with some of my blogger and entertainment idols.  A beautiful business owner (with killer shoes and perfect hair I might add) and I began a conversation over cocktails and lip gloss; the fun girl-talk revealed to be more serious in nature once we started to discuss our jobs… our men… our homes… and we both came to the realization that while we admired each others life choices and direction, we were overly critical of our own lives and accomplishments. And man, how sad is that!?!?  Being in your twenties can suck– but hopefully not most of the time.  And in those times of self doubt, remember these five tips!  :)

1.  Everyone is in the same boat

I don’t know a single lady out there who is not constantly worried about some aspect of her life right now.  “Is this the right job?” “Am I settling?”… “is that a fine line on my forehead!??!!?”  Sometimes it’s best to quiet those voices by talking to a girlfriend.  Call your bff, and I can guarantee that the conversation will end with, “phew, at least it’s not just me.”

2. It’s never too late

This is my dad’s favorite saying.  Not just because it’s catchy, but because it’s true.  It is NEVER too late to change your mind.  If you’re not happy, DO something about it!  Nothing is out of reach, you just have to work for it.  It may not happen over night… but eventually we all will get to our place of BLISS.

3. Confidence comes with experience

I’ve heard from so many women, that our twenties are for finding ourselves, and our thirties are for owning it.  It takes time to figure out who we are and what we want.  Trust that you are where you’re supposed to be right now, take the time to get to know yourself and love yourself… and then good things are bound to come.

4. Meditate

Finding patience and self-awareness is key.  So many friends of mine have started to meditate every day… for just 10 minutes, we can take the time to listen to our bodies, quiet our minds and prepare ourselves– putting our best mental energy forward to embrace whatever the day has to bring.  Find that special time for yourself– one thing I’m learning is that we (as women) can’t be everything for everyone… make yourself a priority every day… even if it’s just for a 10 minute meditation.

5. When in doubt… walk or run.

Exercising and being amongst nature is essential to our happiness.  Let’s get those endorphins to kick in while taking in the birds chirping and sun shining.  You will immediately feel more empowered, healthy and confident.  I guarantee it.

Remember– This is OUR time ladies!  – to explore and try new things!! You are AMAZING.  So start every new day with the attitude that YOU can make it better than the last!

photo by: Sam Zachrich
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  1. Oh yeah! I feel this! When I was 26, I was so frustrated that I was still scrambling around trying to get my life together. 10 years later, (and a few years before that) I’ve found my place in the world and am so happy with it! 36 is the new 26 ;) Enjoy your 20’s and your 30’s will be even better!

  2. J says:

    What a great post! I’m 26 and I find that I am often way too critical of myself. I’m always comparing to other women my age, but I will definitely try to keep your 5 tips in mind more! They are wonderful :) Thank you for the post

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